Preparing Your Mind for Stage Mastery
Your Self-Talk Matters
There’s an old axiom, often
attributed to Dr. Joyce Brothers, that states, “You
can’t consistently act in a manner which is inconsistent
with the way you see yourself.”
The way you see yourself is
directly affected by how you talk to, and about
yourself. Any personal-development guru will tell you
that. Therefore, as a speaker, you’ll want to replace
any self-talk that doesn’t serve your message and image
with self-talk that does.
This isn’t just a motivational
tool. Your self-talk leads to physical changes in the
way you behave, in the way you speak and in the way
others perceive you. When you speak well of yourself, or
even when you repeat positive and accepting words in
your mind, your physical posture actually changes. You
stand straighter, you become more animated with your
gestures and you just feel better all round. Try it, and
see for yourself.
Marc Bowden, author of “Winning
Body Language,” calls this your “Yes State.” When you
focus on all the most positive words you can think of,
several great things happen. Not only do you become more
open and accepting toward yourself, but you also become
more open and accepting toward your audience. They’ll
feel that openness and acceptance from you. They’ll
trust you more when you’re in this state, because the
open and accepting posture and energy will provide them
with an unconscious feeling of being accepted by you.
That’s a good thing!
If you don’t see yourself the way
you’d like to see yourself, the objective is to make
sure your self-talk is always positive and empowering.
Since you can’t consistently act in a manner which is
inconsistent with the way you see yourself, how you see
yourself is largely determined by your self-talk,
therefore, make your self-talk reflective of how you’d
like to see yourself. Get it? Your speaking will be
greatly enhanced by a strong and healthy self-image.
You’ll feel it, and so will your audience.
So, what’s the lesson? Positive
self-talk only, please!